I’ve been looking forward to writing this little blog because I think a dads perspective of a doulas worth is so important. More often than not the dad/birth partner has more doubts when deciding to hire a doula than the mom does. It is usually the mom’s idea after all. But, dads need doulas too. I have a few shorter articles that list reasons why dads need doulas.
But, the purpose of my writing this blog is to get real answers from real dads about their experience with a doula. My brother, Garis’, wife labored without a doula and then with a doula twice. My husband, David, has only experienced my one labor with a doula.
- What were your initial thoughts when I brought up wanting to hire a doula?
- Garis: It seemed silly, but I thought it might feel helpful to her.
- David: At first I thought they were unncessary. But I knew you wanted one, and I knew that it would help calm your fears for delivery.
- As a husband/birth partner did you notice any difference in your ‘role’ during each birth?
- Garis: Having a doula made my role much easier, because the doula was able to tell me exactly what Jade needed from me during each stage of labor.
- How helpful do you think a doula is?
- David: During labor, your doula was invaluable and I can’t imagine doing it without one.
- Would you suggest to other people they should hire a doula?
- David: YES!
- You hired a doula for your third birth so obviously you see the benefits of having a doula. What are your top two or three pieces of advice to a couple who may be considering hiring a doula?
- Jade and Garis: Take some time to consider what you need from your doula, whether it’s information, someone familiar a specific birthing technique, someone who can comfort you, or to coach you through labor and delivery.